social for young adults

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social assesment

The Merriam-Webster English Dictionary defines social as relating to human society, it is the interaction of the individual and the group or the welfare of human beings as members of society. Gerald R. Leslie and Sheila K. Korman also define it as thus “To be social is to tend to form cooperative and interdependent relationships with others.” From these definitions, we can easily see that human beings are social beings because we cannot properly function without the existence of another in our lives. An infant needs its mother’s milk to survive, children learn and grow with other children by interaction. Nations are social in that they help and compete against each other in economy, sports, and politics.

self relationship awareness

Self-awareness can be defined as the conscious awareness of one’s character or behaviour. A person has to train himself to be conscious of the things he does, how he responds to certain issues, gauge himself on his responses to see how well he handles matters. Therefore, self-awareness is a basic tool for self-control.

bond & boundary

A bond is a relationship we create with other people because of shared interests. Travis Hirschi defines it as thus “Social bond is the degree to which an individual is integrated into the society.” It is also the binding ties or social bonding to the family. It is also very necessary to have boundaries in relationships for the sake of space and to avoid toxic and unhealthy individuals. Creating boundaries helps individuals have a sense of control over their space. Bonds and boundaries among and between people in society is a normal way of life. We create bonds with others, and we also set important or necessary boundaries.

initiating, developing & terminating relationships

In this module, the skill of initiating, developing, and terminating relationships will be studied to help individuals understand how and when to get out of toxic relationships, and how to maintain good relationships. To initiate a real relationship, it is better to favour straight-forward, honest, attentive communication. Share your thoughts, feelings, and desires openly and honestly. See if there exists the potential for a fun, compatible match. If there’s no match, it is not a rejection. According to psychology, relationship termination is the voluntary or involuntary ending of relationships.

fitting in, belonging & connection

According to Brené Brown in her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, “Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be, to be accepted”. Belonging, on the other hand, is deeper than fitting in, belonging lets one express his real nature. Fitting in makes you conform to standards but belonging is when you can be yourself in a group of people and still be accepted. Donna Pisacano Brown explains it this way “Human connection is an energy exchange between people who are paying attention to one another. It has the power to deepen the moment, inspire change and build trust.” To be able to connect with others is important in relationships. It helps to build trust and understanding between people, It also creates a sense of peace and comfort around those you are connected with.

standing out, out cast or misfit

The dictionary meaning of a misfit is a person who is not easily accepted by other people, often because their behaviour is very different from that of everyone else. For example, some people have been made to feel like a misfit because they do not want children. This is because wanting children is something tagged as normal according to society, so if an individual wants or does the opposite, he is seen as a misfit. Misfits or outcasts are usually different in their behaviours, opinions, and beliefs, that’s why they are tagged as misfits.

vulnerability - Blessings & curses

Vulnerability is the state of being exposed to hurt or danger. It has its advantages though, the blessings that come with being vulnerable are important, like letting people see us for who we are and creating a family of friends that love us for our nature. When we don’t hide anything, people are more prone to trust us. It comes with its curses too. Some may try to take advantage of a vulnerable person, and if that person is not sensitive enough, it could lead to terrible hurt.

conflict resolution

Alison Doyle defines conflict resolution as thus “Conflict resolution is the process by which two or more parties reach a peaceful resolution to a dispute.” In other words, it is the case where parties with conflicted sides finally come to some sort of agreement about their disagreement and then live peacefully. Resolving conflicts is one social condition that many people should learn about. If half of the world’s population could learn about conflict resolutions, then the world would be a more peaceful place to live.

losses & powerlessness

To lose something or someone, can lead to the feeling of powerlessness. When something is lost, there’s the human tendency to feel powerless over it, over the situation, even over yourself and many times, this inevitably leads to depression.Powerlessness, according to Merriam-Webster English Dictionary, means to be devoid of strength or resources.

understanding your sexuality

This is very important for the sanity of your mental health, many young people need to be oriented on this issue. Your sexuality is a part of you and it is up to you to accept or discard it. But the reason for accepting or discarding your sexuality should be for a genuine reason and not because of others. Also, respecting others with our sexuality is key. Individuals with different kinds of sexualities should be respected as human beings too and not be treated as outcasts, despite what one may believe in. People should try to understand other people’s sexuality and live harmoniously with one another.

forgiveness & reconciliation

Differing from forgiveness, reconciliation is a process conditioned on the attitudes and actions of an offender. The goal of reconciliation is restoring a broken relationship. But those who commit significant offences must recognize that reconciliation is a process.” ( Rev. Steve Cornell) Forgiveness could easily take place, but it would more likely take a long process for reconciliation to happen.

romantic relationships

Romantic relationships can be seen as voluntary intimate relationships between two people who have intentions that each person will be a significant part of their ongoing lives. In a romantic relationship, the couple is committed to each other, and this kind of relationship is one that should (normally) be based on love. “An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Although an intimate relationship is commonly a sexual relationship, it may also be a non-sexual relationship involving family, friends, or acquaintances.”

mentees & mentors

Tech Tello defines a mentor as thus Tech Tello defines a mentor as this “A mentor is a person with expertise, experience or knowledge which is valuable to others and holds strong beliefs about helping others by sharing this knowledge with the world. The mentee is the other side of the mentor-mentee-mentee relationship who sets its tone. The Mentee drives the relationship by determining the role model they wish to emulate and the goals they need to achieve through them.”

book study

Book study is an activity where people gather together to read and discuss a book or text for a specified number of days. Book study helps to engage students with information and helps in memory of what has been read. Discussing the book as it is being read is useful for students who want to remember the text.